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Struggling to have a baby

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  • Struggling to have a baby

    Hi I’m been trying to get pregnant for 8 years now, me and my husband tried naturally for 2 years but nothing happened. I then had A laparoscopy for my endometriosis and I fell the month after but lost at 6 weeks, 4 months later I fell again naturally but again lost the baby at 7 weeks. After that I didn’t get pregnant for another year and I got referred for IVF I had 3 unsuccessful rounds with the NHS all resulting in then not attaching inside me. A year later I fell pregnant naturally again out of the blue but lost that at 8 weeks pregnant as a result of an ectopic pregnant to which I lost my right tube, we then saved up and are now doing private IVF, we’ve currently done another 2 rounds the first time I become pregnant but lost at 5 week, our last go I only had 2 eggs and they didn’t fertilise , we are due to go again next month. I also have a low ovarian reserve for a 36 year old. I’m hoping that someone maybe going through the same as it’s really tough on me and would love to talk to someone maybe going through the same thing.
    Gemma x

  • #2
    Hi Gemma, I'm so sorry to hear your struggles - that must be really hard. Any update since your August post??
    Personally, I have only been TTC since June 2020. I have had Type 1 Diabetes since I was 5 (I'm 31 now), I've been told before that I don't ovulate regularly, and in early November I was diagnosed with PCOS. Given my health history, I was anticipating having some added fertility challenges, so the PCOS diagnosis was not a huge surprise to me. My doctor has put me on Letrozole now, so we will see if that helps. My husband and I have also discussed adoption and it's something we are both happy to consider. Have you thought at all about adoption?
    Anyway, I have a friend who had a shockingly similar story to yours. She was TTC for close to 10 years - lots of fertility treatments, losses, stress and sadness - but she finally conceived through IVF and had a healthy baby boy when she was 38!! Funny enough, she was also gearing up to start the adoption process when this happened. It can be a long, tough road but don't give up : ) Sending lots of positive thoughts your way and wishing you the best!


    • #3
      I’m reaching out to everyone here to let you know that I just had another baby after TRYING TO CONCEIVE for 6 years and also to share my pregnancy jorney story! I am so happy to announce that at 40 years of age, I gave birth to a healthy and beautiful twins baby girls on Oct0ber 29, 2022, My husband and I are from San Anthonio TX. In January of 2014, our third child, a beautiful baby girl, was born perfect and healthy. We couldn’t have been happier; our family of five felt perfect and complete. A few months down the road, as we were considering birth control options, the doctor informed us about Essure. This non-surgical, non-hormone, cost effective option seemed perfect. We went ahead with it, never imagining that there would ever be any reason to make us reconsider. Why would we when our little family was just right, and we were so happy?A little over a year later on October 9, 2015, our perfect baby girl left us to walk with Jesus. With very little warning or symptoms, her appendix burst and her tiny body succumbed to sepsis very quickly. The doctors and staff worked so hard to help her, but our little angel flew to heaven. I can tell you there is nothing worse than losing a child. It hurts so badly that it truly feels as though your heart is breaking. After several months, our boys began to question us about having another baby. The thought of a new precious miracle in our lives grew in our hearts quickly, and we began to look at what our options were. When I had gotten the Essure, the doctor had been very specific that it could not be reversed. With our first phone calls, we were told our only option was in vitro fertilization (IVF). As we researched that, it just didn’t seem like a great option for us. However, I stumbled on a story of a woman who Dr Agbola helped to conceive a twins baby under the same condition as mine. so i decided to put a try and talk toed him because this has been my greatest problem in life, words will not be enough to explain what this man did for me,i know there is someone in the same condition and you feel there is no way, i’m also giving this hint to couples who are struggling with INFERTILITY or had their TUBES TIED.


      • #4
        racheal2343 - awesome news, massive congrats


        • #5
          I'm sorry to hear that you have been struggling with fertility issues for such a long time. It sounds like you have been through a lot and have had to overcome many obstacles in your journey to conceive.

          Infertility can be a very difficult and emotional experience, and it's important to have a support system in place to help you through it. There are many resources available to you, including support groups, fertility counselors, and online forums where you can connect with others who are going through similar experiences. You may also want to consider speaking with your doctor or a fertility specialist to discuss your options for treatment and to get personalized advice based on your specific situation. There may be additional options available to you, such as using donor eggs or sperm or exploring other types of fertility treatments.

          Remember to take care of yourself during this time and to seek out the support you need. Best of luck to you on your journey to becoming a parent.


          • #6
            please keep in mind that it's crucial to consult with a qualified healthcare professional for personalized advice and guidance.
            1. Visit a fertility specialist: If you've been trying to conceive for a significant amount of time without success, it may be a good idea to consult a fertility specialist or reproductive endocrinologist. They can help identify potential underlying issues and recommend appropriate treatments.
            2. Maintain a healthy lifestyle: Both partners should focus on maintaining a healthy lifestyle by eating a balanced diet, exercising regularly, and avoiding excessive alcohol, smoking, and drug use. Being in good physical health can positively impact fertility.
            3. Understand ovulation: Familiarize yourself with the menstrual cycle and learn about the signs of ovulation. Knowing when you're most fertile can improve your chances of conception.
            4. Timing of intercourse: Plan to have regular sexual intercourse around the time of ovulation to increase the likelihood of conception. There are ovulation prediction kits available that can help identify the most fertile days.
            5. Manage stress: High levels of stress can affect fertility. Consider practicing relaxation techniques, such as meditation, yoga, or counseling, to manage stress and promote overall well-being.
            6. Seek emotional support: Going through the challenges of trying to conceive can be emotionally taxing. It's essential to seek emotional support from your partner, friends, or family or consider joining support groups where you can connect with others experiencing similar struggles.
            7. Fertility treatments: Depending on the underlying cause of infertility, there are various fertility treatments available, such as intrauterine insemination (IUI), in vitro fertilization (IVF), and more. These treatments should be discussed with a fertility specialist.

            Remember, each person's fertility journey is unique, and it's essential to approach the situation with patience and understanding. Be sure to consult a healthcare professional to get a proper evaluation and guidance tailored to your specific situation.